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Patty Griffin — Goodbye (live)
Album: A Kiss In Time
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Released: 2003
Length: 4:37
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Occurred to me the other day
You've been gone now a couple years
Well, I guess it takes a while
For someone to really disappear

And I remember where I was
When the word came about you
It was a day much like today
The sky was bright and wide and blue

And I wonder where you are
And if the pain ends when you die
And I wonder if there was
Some better way to say goodbye

Today my heart is big and sore
It's trying to push right through my skin
Won't see you any more
I guess that's finally sinking in

'Cause you can't make somebody see
With the simple words you say
All their beauty from within
Sometimes they just look away

And I wonder where you are
And if the pain ends when you die
And I wonder if there was
Some better way to say goodbye
Some better way to say goodbye
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{#Cheers}

The incomparable and beloved Patty Griffin.   

Every. Single. Time.
c.
Patty Griffin is AMAZING!  We just saw her live in NY and she blew us away.
She's on tour right now--catch her if you can! The new songs she performed were outstanding.
Likewise, Andy_B, just recently lost my mom as well and can relate to your sentiments. 

Clark_Novato wrote:
 Beautiful Song.  Beautiful sentiment.

Andy_B wrote:
Man that girl really can sing!  It has stopped me dead in my tracks ever since I first heard it here on RP.  I just bumped it from an 8 to a 10. 

I too have recently lost a loved one, my mom who lived until 100, early in April past and at this point in my life I just could not let the memories go so I've moved off my boat and into her and dad's house in which I've lived off and on since age 3 when it was built 71 years ago.  Now they're both with me all the time.

 

 


Now I need to go put in JB's 'Grace' and crank it up. Dammit.
c.
 Beautiful Song.  Beautiful sentiment.

Andy_B wrote:
Man that girl really can sing!  It has stopped me dead in my tracks ever since I first heard it here on RP.  I just bumped it from an 8 to a 10. 

I too have recently lost a loved one, my mom who lived until 100, early in April past and at this point in my life I just could not let the memories go so I've moved off my boat and into her and dad's house in which I've lived off and on since age 3 when it was built 71 years ago.  Now they're both with me all the time.

 


tearjerker! 
Man that girl really can sing!  It has stopped me dead in my tracks ever since I first heard it here on RP.  I just bumped it from an 8 to a 10. 

I too have recently lost a loved one, my mom who lived until 100, early in April past and at this point in my life I just could not let the memories go so I've moved off my boat and into her and dad's house in which I've lived off and on since age 3 when it was built 71 years ago.  Now they're both with me all the time.
 rpdevotee wrote:
Damn...this song is making me cry again! {#Cry} I din't get a chance to turn it off fast enough 
Just lost my father a couple months ago and a good friend a few months before that.  {#Doh}

 
It always makes me wonder if you can ever really say goodbye to certain people.
Damn...this song is making me cry again! {#Cry} I din't get a chance to turn it off fast enough 
Just lost my father a couple months ago and a good friend a few months before that.  {#Doh}
Nice.
A monster talent.
sound of love torn
She knows my pain.
Nice version of this song (originally on Flaming Red).
 Danimal174 wrote:
"I won't see you anymore, 
I guess that's finally sinking in."

Losing a loved one, for me, really doesn't seem to hit me until a few years later...at least, the real feeling of "they're never coming back". True with my dad and brother when I was a teen, and true when I lost my mom about four years ago. The first few months are the hardest overall, but the true feeling of someone being gone didn't really hit me until I'd go a few days without thinking about the fact they died. In a way, that was even harder, because you felt like you were forgetting them.  

 
{#Meditate}
"I won't see you anymore, 
I guess that's finally sinking in."

Losing a loved one, for me, really doesn't seem to hit me until a few years later...at least, the real feeling of "they're never coming back". True with my dad and brother when I was a teen, and true when I lost my mom about four years ago. The first few months are the hardest overall, but the true feeling of someone being gone didn't really hit me until I'd go a few days without thinking about the fact they died. In a way, that was even harder, because you felt like you were forgetting them.  
very moving
I'm tearing up.
Very nice segue from Michael Hedges.  Two beautiful pieces 


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 RCinSoCal wrote:
One of the most powerful songs ever.  Taking care of my Dad full time now during his hospice care that started last week.  Lost my brother and my cousin last month.  This just made me sit and cry my eyes out.  Just as it has before.

 

The Bustle in a House

The bustle in a house
The morning after death
Is solemnest of industries
Enacted upon earth, - 

The sweeping up the heart,
And putting love away
We shall not want to use again
Until eternity

Emily Dickinson
 


Gorgeous. 
 RCinSoCal wrote:
One of the most powerful songs ever.  Taking care of my Dad full time now during his hospice care that started last week.  Lost my brother and my cousin last month.  This just made me sit and cry my eyes out.  Just as it has before.

 

One of the most powerful songs ever.  Taking care of my Dad full time now during his hospice care that started last week.  Lost my brother and my cousin last month.  This just made me sit and cry my eyes out.  Just as it has before.
I was at this concert. Amazing.
Second Patty Griffin song this morning!! Wow!! Not bad.
 SoundThinker wrote:
Tomorrow night at this very time, Patty will be playing for me and many other in Denver, CO. I really hope she does this song. 

I’m terminal now and so many of her songs hit home. 

 
I hope the best for you my dear friend... 
Fixes those dry eyes right up. {#Cry}
when we have no words...we have Patty Griffin
 
Tomorrow night at this very time, Patty will be playing for me and many other in Denver, CO. I really hope she does this song. 

I’m terminal now and so many of her songs hit home. 
Every time I hear this song, I tell myself this will be the time I don't emotional. I lost my cousin and closest friend to suicide 29 years ago.  Even though we grew up close and were life long friends, we were arguing when he died.  When Patty gets to the line "I wish there was a better way to say goodbye", I lose it.  Every time.
Can never get enough of that song!  Heavenly.
Cynaera
south of neanderthal
"Sitting here in tears. Dammit. Patty Griffin does that to me. I've just resolved to use any disposable income I have to see this woman in concert ONCE, no matter where she is (if it's Montréal, so much the better, but Sedona would be fine, too.)  Life's too short to drink bad port. I think Ernest Hemmingway said that, but don't quote me. The point is, life's too short to miss out on the magic, and Ms. Griffin has it, to the n'th power. 

Off to put my new computer on hold and look for tickets instead. *Tossing faerie dust over my shoulder as I go* {#Daisy}  "





soft and yet strong, and worth remembering
 casey1024 wrote:
This song has such impact.  Stops me in my tracks every time.  Brings me to tears every time.  Can't stop myself from listening every time.

 
{#Yes}
Lost my friend Jimmy 2 years ago on Thursday.
a very fitting song for Robin WIlliams....that still hurts
This song has such impact.  Stops me in my tracks every time.  Brings me to tears every time.  Can't stop myself from listening every time.
 Webfoot wrote:
I'd like to see more negative comments so I can (maybe) understand why people would rate this  a "1".

 
You are searching for a rationality that does not exist.  
Waves of chills.
"Today my heart is big and sore"  say's it all.   We lost my brother in law 2 months ago....I've known him for 30 years and he was like the big brother I never had.  He was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer on a Friday and died the following Thursday.  On Sunday he would have celebrated his 66th birthday.  Love you TC.  Goodbye. <3  
I'd like to see more negative comments so I can (maybe) understand why people would rate this  a "1".
 cc_rider wrote:
My ex-wife's brother-in-law killed himself earlier this year. He battled depression all his life: we commiserated about our illness sometimes, so I felt a connection with him. Damn shame.

This song never gets easier to listen to. And yet I don't want to stop listening. 

 

Especially this lovely live version with all the reverb on her voice and guitar....
ALWAYS brings me to tears.
My ex-wife's brother-in-law killed himself earlier this year. He battled depression all his life: we commiserated about our illness sometimes, so I felt a connection with him. Damn shame.

This song never gets easier to listen to. And yet I don't want to stop listening. 
 Steve wrote:

This post deserves to be bumped from time to time.

 
Thank you, Steve.  Via your bump I got to see Cynera's post.
Gets me every time.
nice to hear genuine real singing as opposed to that shrieking on tv these days.
 michaelgmitchell wrote:
Fond thoughts of my dear friend, John, who held his illness from us for an entire year before passing suddenly, 2009. Like yesterday. This song just kills me. Pardon the pun.

 
Ditto, lost my Mom to cancer 23 weeks ago today. Thursday's are tough day's {#Cry}
I'm trying to decide what lady singer we hear on RP has the most superlative voice. I think it's Patty and then everyone else. You hear it and LISTEN.
Fond thoughts of my dear friend, John, who held his illness from us for an entire year before passing suddenly, 2009. Like yesterday. This song just kills me. Pardon the pun.
 Steve wrote:

This post deserves to be bumped from time to time.

 

Good call.
 Steve wrote:
This post deserves to be bumped from time to time.

 
Yes. Yes it does.
 Cynaera wrote:

Sitting here in tears. Dammit. Patty Griffin does that to me. I've just resolved to use any disposable income I have to see this woman in concert ONCE, no matter where she is (if it's Montréal, so much the better, but Sedona would be fine, too.)  Life's too short to drink bad port. I think Ernest Hemmingway said that, but don't quote me. The point is, life's too short to miss out on the magic, and Ms. Griffin has it, to the n'th power.

Off to put my new computer on hold and look for tickets instead. *Tossing faerie dust over my shoulder as I go* {#Daisy}

 
This post deserves to be bumped from time to time.
I thought my breaks were wore...nope it was this song is all.  Goodbye squeal.
To the firefighters in AZ. RIP.

Sublime songwriting, soul penetrating singing.


Too. Much. Whining... PSD
10 is not nearly high enough for this song, this voice.  Perfect.
Amazing sentiment. Beautiful song. Voice...sigh.
I have to rate this as high as can be!  Love it so much, and just got up to sway and sing, as I always do when they play it.  So beautiful.
This amazing voice/heart at the end of ANOTHER set RP has outdone Itself ... embarrassing to be gushing all the time but Holy Moly. Bill's work is 11. Turn it up. First thing this morning and Life Is Better With Radio Paradise. .... And now Hendrix Castles Made Of Sand. Holy Shit.

Patty Griffin
Goodbye (live)    A Kiss In Time (2003)    8.1
9:47 am    Sinead Lohan
To Ramona    The Loving Time (various artists) (1996)    6.9
9:41 am    Bob Dylan
Romance In Durango    Desire (1976)    6.4
9:37 am    Calexico
Sinner In The Sea    Algiers (2012)    7.1
9:34 am    Sebadoh
Ocean    Harmacy (1996)    5.9
9:30 am    Leon Russell
Back To The Island    Will o' the Wisp (1975)    6.2
9:26 am    Pink Floyd
San Tropez
Debbie, Claudia, Phyllis, Terry, Mom - too many more to list.  This song breaks me.  Deserves more than a mere 10.

 Cynaera wrote:
Sitting here in tears. Dammit. Patty Griffin does that to me. I've just resolved to use any disposable income I have to see this woman in concert ONCE, no matter where she is (if it's Montréal, so much the better, but Sedona would be fine, too.)  Life's too short to drink bad port. I think Ernest Hemmingway said that, but don't quote me. The point is, life's too short to miss out on the magic, and Ms. Griffin has it, to the n'th power.

Off to put my new computer on hold and look for tickets instead. *Tossing faerie dust over my shoulder as I go* {#Daisy}
 
Godspeed, Ann. We miss you.


 AlienRelic wrote:
I am reminded of a friend I lost a couple of years ago. This song hurts.
 
Sorry for your loss. This song distills so much emotion into a few painful minutes, it's hard to listen to. But I do. I stop and listen every time.
Really up there, bravo Patty
Was lucky enough to have tickets to see Patty's solo acoustic show the other night at a small theater in Duluth Georgia.  Absolutely unbelievable.
I am reminded of a friend I lost a couple of years ago. This song hurts.
 lattalo wrote:

 
LOVE YOU PATTY!
 cc_rider wrote:

The worst part of it all is, our friend Cynaera passed away a few months ago. I don't think she ever got to see Patty play.

This song has always brought me close to tears, but now it has extra impact.
 
And romeotuma often posts a tribute to her (scroll down a bit)...
 Cynaera wrote:

Sitting here in tears. Dammit. Patty Griffin does that to me. I've just resolved to use any disposable income I have to see this woman in concert ONCE, no matter where she is (if it's Montréal, so much the better, but Sedona would be fine, too.)  Life's too short to drink bad port. I think Ernest Hemmingway said that, but don't quote me. The point is, life's too short to miss out on the magic, and Ms. Griffin has it, to the n'th power.

Off to put my new computer on hold and look for tickets instead. *Tossing faerie dust over my shoulder as I go* {#Daisy}
 


 CamLwalk wrote:
Funny how a song can make you so emotional.  Reading the posts, I can see I'm not the only one that gets choked up by this one.
 
nope. i do, too.
I just love everything I've ever heard from her.
 philbertr wrote:

And your post could almost bring me to tears, Cynaera!  RadioParadise is a wonderful place.  The music is incredible, and so are most of the members!  (We just have to put up with the evil posts of the trolls as part of the price of membership.  After all, even paradise has mosquitoes.)
 
The worst part of it all is, our friend Cynaera passed away a few months ago. I don't think she ever got to see Patty play.

This song has always brought me close to tears, but now it has extra impact.
Funny how a song can make you so emotional.  Reading the posts, I can see I'm not the only one that gets choked up by this one.
 Cynaera wrote:

Sitting here in tears. Dammit. Patty Griffin does that to me. I've just resolved to use any disposable income I have to see this woman in concert ONCE, no matter where she is (if it's Montréal, so much the better, but Sedona would be fine, too.)  Life's too short to drink bad port. I think Ernest Hemmingway said that, but don't quote me. The point is, life's too short to miss out on the magic, and Ms. Griffin has it, to the n'th power.

Off to put my new computer on hold and look for tickets instead. *Tossing faerie dust over my shoulder as I go* {#Daisy}
 
And your post could almost bring me to tears, Cynaera!  RadioParadise is a wonderful place.  The music is incredible, and so are most of the members!  (We just have to put up with the evil posts of the trolls as part of the price of membership.  After all, even paradise has mosquitoes.)
Wonderful lyrics, very nice musicality, beautiful voice...what more one ask?
 Cynaera wrote:
Sitting here in tears. Dammit. Patty Griffin does that to me. I've just resolved to use any disposable income I have to see this woman in concert ONCE, no matter where she is (if it's Montréal, so much the better, but Sedona would be fine, too.)  Life's too short to drink bad port. I think Ernest Hemmingway said that, but don't quote me. The point is, life's too short to miss out on the magic, and Ms. Griffin has it, to the n'th power.

Off to put my new computer on hold and look for tickets instead. *Tossing faerie dust over my shoulder as I go* {#Daisy}
 
Bump for our friend. Goodbye.
 MojoJojo wrote:
I miss ya, pops.

 
I miss mine too.

Growing old is not for whimps.


This is really lovely.
Siongs follows her new husband's 29 Palms.  Nice segue again, Bill

I miss ya, pops.

Just... crushing.
 swell_sailor wrote:
I miss a few good friends a whole lot when I hear this song. One in particular. But I can finally listen again. 

 

{#Sad}   {#Yes}  Friends and family members.
gets me every time. {#Cry}
I miss a few good friends a whole lot when I hear this song. One in particular. But I can finally listen again. 

I cannot hear this song without crying. Particularly, THIS version, but any version makes me misty at the very least.

damn it tears every time.
 calypsus_1 wrote:


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See you all on April 29th at the New Orleans Jazz and Heritage Festival
Miss you so much.  STILL wish you were here.
{#Cry}  10
 madra wrote:
Whenever Bill plays this song, I have to stop and listen, even though I know I'm going to end up crying. 

 
Sitting here in tears. Dammit. Patty Griffin does that to me. I've just resolved to use any disposable income I have to see this woman in concert ONCE, no matter where she is (if it's Montréal, so much the better, but Sedona would be fine, too.)  Life's too short to drink bad port. I think Ernest Hemmingway said that, but don't quote me. The point is, life's too short to miss out on the magic, and Ms. Griffin has it, to the n'th power.

Off to put my new computer on hold and look for tickets instead. *Tossing faerie dust over my shoulder as I go* {#Daisy}
 MinMan wrote:
...Jeff Buckley glances down from the heavens and nods his head in understanding...
 
I went into Wikipedia and gave credit to Patty Griffin for this song as a "tribute" to Jeff. It might not be true, but an awful lot of people on RP seem to think so, and I suspect people who've seen Patty live heard what she said about what she was thinking when she wrote this song. 
I see a lot of comments from Oct 6th. This year that date marked 11 years since my best friend, a great young drummer, died in a car accident. This song always makes my think of him. RIP Josh.
one last good cry for the year....amazing
 joe12south wrote:
First time I've heard this version. I didn't think there could be a better recording than the studio version, but this tops it.
 

Agreed.  I used to think the studio version was the 'perfect' song....  Now this is.
First time I've heard this version. I didn't think there could be a better recording than the studio version, but this tops it.
 madra wrote:
Whenever Bill plays this song, I have to stop and listen, even though I know I'm going to end up crying. 

 
Amen. It gets me every single time.

Chills.
One of the few times that the live version is better than the studio...and the studio version is a 9! 
 swell_sailor wrote:

I gave it an 8 too, when I wasn't listening to it. Then when it was playing I remembered how it made me feel. Few songs make me just stop and stare into space. How can it not be a 10. 
 

naw ...... 12 guy ...... it has to be a 12 .... anything that brings tears to your eyes decades later ...... naw .... maybe a 15 .... yeh .... 15+

Makes me think of my grandfather, rest in peace buddy.
this song ALWAYS makes me cry...seriously....
 olesonb wrote:


Same here. I wish Tom and I would have had a chance to say a better good-bye before cancer took him, even after 25 years.
 
Some things just don't get easier - even with time.

Just love her....the last album "Downtown Church" was terific, but anything she does is terrfic.
Great song whether live or in the studio, but the live version is a nice change of pace.
 tpa29970 wrote:
...never cried on the bus before.  But impossible not to.
 
I just have something in my eye.  I'm not crying.


Oh. My.
Stunning. One of the best songs ever written about loss. Her vocal delivery fits it perfectly.
9 to a 10.  This has too much power to just be a 9.
 casey1024 wrote:
This song is so amazingly deep.  It touches the part of my heart that is sore from the loss of my best friend in the world.
 

Same here. I wish Tom and I would have had a chance to say a better good-bye before cancer took him, even after 25 years.


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 tpa29970 wrote:
...never cried on the bus before.  But impossible not to.
 
whoof!!  'nuff said!


...never cried on the bus before.  But impossible not to.
she is touring with Buddy Miller this spring/summer: a show not to be missed...
This live version chokes me up, I get all leaky as it starts . . . worth a 10 - Epic meaning for me in this one

 cc_rider wrote:
8? I gave this an 8? What the FRACK is wrong with me? Patty Griffin singing about Jeff Buckley? Solid 10. Duh.
 
I gave it an 8 too, when I wasn't listening to it. Then when it was playing I remembered how it made me feel. Few songs make me just stop and stare into space. How can it not be a 10. 
Oh my my, just wikid!  The power of song!  {#Good-vibes}
Whenever Bill plays this song, I have to stop and listen, even though I know I'm going to end up crying.