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Posted: Oct 14, 2010 - 1:33pm

 arighter2 wrote:

Practical steps have to be taken to protect us both, but I have known her long enough that my love is unconditional. I am willing and easily strong enough to fight for people in ways they cannot fight for themselves.
 
Wishing the best possible outcome for you here Larry.{#Hug}Good on you for being there for your friend...

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Posted: Oct 14, 2010 - 1:31pm

 arighter2 wrote:

Practical steps have to be taken to protect us both, but I have known her long enough that my love is unconditional. I am willing and easily strong enough to fight for people in ways they cannot fight for themselves.
 
Are you just letting it go, or will you say something?

arighter2

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Posted: Oct 14, 2010 - 1:30pm

 Beaker wrote:

Doesn't sound weird to me at all.  Totally understand. 

You'll also find you'll be hardening your emotional and compassionate views towards her too...
 
Practical steps have to be taken to protect us both, but I have known her long enough that my love is unconditional. I am willing and easily strong enough to fight for people in ways they cannot fight for themselves.

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Posted: Oct 14, 2010 - 1:27pm

 cc_rider wrote:

And as others have mentioned, it's not a matter of mental illness either. Some people are just determined to make BAD CHOICES. 
 
Hence my daily visit to the RP forums.
hippiechick

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Posted: Oct 14, 2010 - 1:25pm

We do things because we think they are right, not because the other person is properly appreciative. You were a blessing to her, and I would bet that someday, when her head is on straight, she will recognize this, maybe even acknowledge it to you.

You are a mensch!

{#Hug}
arighter2

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Posted: Oct 14, 2010 - 1:23pm

 meower wrote:


it doesnt sound weird.  So long as you're not blaming yourself. 

  No, I don't feel guilty. I'm glad I brought it up here. I have my resolution, and I am at peace again. {#Sunny}


cc_rider

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Posted: Oct 14, 2010 - 1:21pm

 arighter2 wrote:
She is a good person acting out on a fear of having nothing. It really wasn't necessary because I have been giving her spending money. Acts like these inevitably harm the doer. I know it sounds weird, but I have to tighten up my security to protect her from herself.
  Doesn't sound weird to me at all. You may still be able to help her, just at a more secure distance. I wish you all the best.


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Posted: Oct 14, 2010 - 1:19pm

 JrzyTmata wrote:

No good deed goes unpunished is a crappy cliche too.
lots of good deeds are gratefully appreciated! this just wasn't one of them. I hope alrighter finds a resolution.
 
I agree. It was just the cynic in me.

And as others have mentioned, it's not a matter of mental illness either. Some people are just determined to make BAD CHOICES. Not talking about addiction, that's different.

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Posted: Oct 14, 2010 - 1:19pm

 arighter2 wrote:
She is a good person acting out on a fear of having nothing. It really wasn't necessary because I have been giving her spending money. Acts like these inevitably harm the doer. I know it sounds weird, but I have to tighten up my security to protect her from herself.
 

it doesnt sound weird.  So long as you're not blaming yourself. 


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Posted: Oct 14, 2010 - 1:18pm

 laozilover wrote:

Sorry, Larry! That's gotta hurt!

 
It makes me very sad.

arighter2

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Posted: Oct 14, 2010 - 1:16pm

 Beaker wrote:

  Some people are no good.  They're so focussed on their short-term needs that nothing else ever enters their head.  Its disappointing and causes us to withdraw from those like that.  Understand that irrational people do irrational things. 

Been there.  Got the expensive t-shirt.
  She is a good person acting out on a fear of having nothing. It really wasn't necessary because I have been giving her spending money. Acts like these inevitably harm the doer. I know it sounds weird, but I have to tighten up my security to protect her from herself.

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Posted: Oct 14, 2010 - 1:15pm

 arighter2 wrote:
I've given a mentally ill homeless friend a phone and a month worth of minutes, paid her car insurance, given her almost two hundred dollars, and expert advice on who to see to alleviate her situation, and let her stay in my apt while I was gone. I just found out she went through my stuff and took $100. {#Sad}

 
Sorry, Larry! That's gotta hurt!


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Posted: Oct 14, 2010 - 1:14pm

 Exit2Eden wrote:

Just because someone is "mentally ill", it does not make them commit criminal acts...talk about stereotypes! {#Rolleyes}

 
No good deed goes unpunished is a crappy cliche too.
lots of good deeds are gratefully appreciated! this just wasn't one of them at this time. I hope alrighter finds a resolution.

meower

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Posted: Oct 14, 2010 - 1:09pm

 Exit2Eden wrote:

Just because someone is "mentally ill", it does not make them commit criminal acts...talk about stereotypes! {#Rolleyes}

 

 
arighter2

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Posted: Oct 14, 2010 - 1:09pm

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Knowing you and you're lovely disposition, I'm not suprised that you arent angry.  Are you thinking to confront her?  Is that what you're not sure about?

 
I really don't think confronting her would serve a positive purpose. I will let her know  I am missing the money without accusation. The road ahead for her is quite difficult. She needs me for an ally. I have to rework how I handle money so as not to provide the temptation.

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Posted: Oct 14, 2010 - 1:08pm

 Ebon_Lupus wrote:
 arighter2 wrote:
I've given a mentally ill homeless friend a phone and a month worth of minutes, paid her car insurance, given her almost two hundred dollars, and expert advice on who to see to alleviate her situation, and let her stay in my apt while I was gone. I just found out she went through my stuff and took $100. {#Sad}
 
No kind deed goes unpunished.

She is, after all, mentally ill, right?

What can you do?

 
Just because someone is "mentally ill", it does not make them commit criminal acts...talk about stereotypes! {#Rolleyes}


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Posted: Oct 14, 2010 - 1:05pm

 arighter2 wrote:
I've given a mentally ill homeless friend a phone and a month worth of minutes, paid her car insurance, given her almost two hundred dollars, and expert advice on who to see to alleviate her situation, and let her stay in my apt while I was gone. I just found out she went through my stuff and took $100. {#Sad}

 

I'm so sorry that happened to you.. {#Hug}
samiyam

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Posted: Oct 14, 2010 - 1:04pm

 arighter2 wrote:

I'm not mad. Just disappointed. And I'm not sure how to proceed.
 
"Fool me once, shame on you... fool me twice, shame on Beaker"
 ~ Ancient Folk Wisdom ~

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Posted: Oct 14, 2010 - 1:03pm

 arighter2 wrote:

I'm not mad. Just disappointed. And I'm not sure how to proceed.
 
Personally, I'd beat it out of her.  I'm kidding of course.  Sorry this happened to you.  It hurts to be taken advantage of.

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Posted: Oct 14, 2010 - 1:03pm

 arighter2 wrote:
I've given a mentally ill homeless friend a phone and a month worth of minutes, paid her car insurance, given her almost two hundred dollars, and expert advice on who to see to alleviate her situation, and let her stay in my apt while I was gone. I just found out she went through my stuff and took $100. {#Sad}

 
No good deed goes unpunished.

but seriously, some people are determined to make the worst possible choices. I tried to help a homeless couple for several years, and came to realize there was nothing more I could do for them. Sorry to hear you had a similar situation.

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