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Apparently my mother is not declining fast enough so they are talking about taking her off hospice. i think much of it is due to taking her off many meds and switching to patch for pain management.I have mixed feeling on all that. She has no real quality of life.Dementia is probably not going to kill her, but the Diabetes/kidney failure likely will at some point. I am the only one who gives her chocolate for some reason, but then I am her favorite.

Alexandra

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Posted: Sep 27, 2016 - 11:07am

FourFortyEight wrote:

My heart goes out to you. Lost my mom about two weeks ago. Life is different. The suffering has ended but I sure do miss her. Hang in there.

I saw that - I'm so very sorry for your loss. I have been trying to imagine just how different life will be when Mom is finally gone—-even though she's had a longer, fuller life than most people's parents (she'll be 94 in November)...and I will only know for sure when it happens. I will miss that whole era of brave people who danced to Big Band music and survived the Depression, a world war, their kids going to Vietnam, and everything else.

Thank you.

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Posted: Sep 27, 2016 - 10:35am

Alexandra wrote:

Mom had shown significant improvement since my Hawaiian sister has been there spending round-the-clock time with her. Since Hospice does a lot of care now and the facility is stepping up care (checks every 2 hours)....my sister feels okay to return home.

We all thought this was the end. Mom has a little more time left in her earthly journey, however. And so life goes on.....

My heart goes out to you. Lost my mom about two weeks ago. Life is different. The suffering has ended but I sure do miss her. Hang in there.

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Posted: Sep 26, 2016 - 6:40pm
Alexandra wrote: Mom had shown significant improvement since my Hawaiian sister has been there spending round-the-clock time with her. Since Hospice does a lot of care now and the facility is stepping up care (checks every 2 hours)....my sister feels okay to return home. We all thought this was the end. Mom has a little more time left in her earthly journey, however. And so life goes on.....

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Posted: Sep 26, 2016 - 6:04pm
Alexandra wrote: Mom had shown significant improvement since my Hawaiian sister has been there spending round-the-clock time with her. Since Hospice does a lot of care now and the facility is stepping up care (checks every 2 hours)....my sister feels okay to return home. We all thought this was the end. Mom has a little more time left in her earthly journey, however. And so life goes on.....

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Posted: Sep 26, 2016 - 4:38pm
Alexandra wrote: Mom had shown significant improvement since my Hawaiian sister has been there spending round-the-clock time with her. Since Hospice does a lot of care now and the facility is stepping up care (checks every 2 hours)....my sister feels okay to return home. We all thought this was the end. Mom has a little more time left in her earthly journey, however. And so life goes on.....

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Posted: Sep 26, 2016 - 1:10pm
Alexandra wrote: Mom had shown significant improvement since my Hawaiian sister has been there spending round-the-clock time with her. Since Hospice does a lot of care now and the facility is stepping up care (checks every 2 hours)....my sister feels okay to return home. We all thought this was the end. Mom has a little more time left in her earthly journey, however. And so life goes on.....

Alexandra

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Posted: Sep 26, 2016 - 1:08pm
Mom had shown significant improvement since my Hawaiian sister has been there spending round-the-clock time with her. Since Hospice does a lot of care now and the facility is stepping up care (checks every 2 hours)....my sister feels okay to return home. We all thought this was the end. Mom has a little more time left in her earthly journey, however. And so life goes on.....

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Posted: Sep 13, 2016 - 11:12am
Alexandra wrote: I have tremendous love and respect for her.

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Posted: Sep 13, 2016 - 10:16am

Alexandra wrote:

With our mother now a "fall risk" having fallen twice (in addition to the stroke) and sustained 2 compression fractures in her spine - my eldest sister has suspended running her business in Hawaii and left the islands to stay with Mom indefinitely. If Mom sticks around and lingers in her ever-weakening condition, J and my other local siblings will form a plan to get her into a room that has way more care provided (at her assisted living). If she doesn't last much longer, it will be such a blessing that her loving daughter was tending to her needs in her final weeks/months.

And my 69 year-old sister is doing this with a bad back, arthritis in her knees, and only six months out from having taken care of her late husband like this for a few years.

I have tremendous love and respect for her.

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Posted: Sep 13, 2016 - 8:38am

Alexandra wrote:

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Posted: Sep 13, 2016 - 6:26am

Alexandra wrote:

what a strong family you have.

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Posted: Sep 12, 2016 - 9:30pm

Alexandra wrote:

Sending vibes of peace and understanding to you all. {#Hug}

Alexandra

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Posted: Sep 12, 2016 - 8:58pm

Alexandra

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Posted: Aug 26, 2016 - 10:02am
Thanks, everyone The nurse said she's actually improving today, walking to lunch with her walker again and smiling. Still confused and hard to talk/form words...but at least not actively dying. Not yet, anyway. What a tough woman. I hope I'm that tough at 93.

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Posted: Aug 26, 2016 - 6:28am

Alexandra wrote:

Mom had a ministroke today, and she is now under Hospice care. It's too soon to tell if she is or is about to start actively dying. But things have definitely changed as far as mobility, speech, coloring, etc.

We (my siblings and I) are hoping that she doesn't have to languish or enter any period of prolonged infirmity. The last time one of my sisters spent the night with her, she (sister) dreamt she was talking to my Dad...and when she awoke, Mom called out Dad's name in her sleep. As a believer in an afterlife, something is definitely significant about that (to me).

Just sending her waves of peace and love at this point.

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Posted: Aug 25, 2016 - 7:00pm

Alexandra wrote:

Sorry, A...Sending love and light to you all. {#Hug}

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Posted: Aug 25, 2016 - 6:56pm

Alexandra wrote:

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Posted: Aug 25, 2016 - 6:53pm

Alexandra wrote:

I am so sorry to hear this, Alex. Much love and comfort to all.

Alexandra

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Posted: Aug 25, 2016 - 6:44pm

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