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Patty Griffin — Goodbye
Album: Flaming Red
Avg rating:
7.7

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Total ratings: 1079









Released: 1998
Length: 4:05
Plays (last 30 days): 0
Occurred to me the other day
You've been gone now a couple years
Well, I guess it takes a while
For someone to really disappear

And I remember where I was
When the word came about you
It was a day much like today
The sky was bright and wide and blue

And I wonder where you are
And if the pain ends when you die
And I wonder if there was
Some better way to say goodbye

Today my heart is big and sore
It's trying to push right through my skin
Won't see you any more
I guess that's finally sinking in

'Cause you can't make somebody see
With the simple words you say
All their beauty from within
Sometimes they just look away

And I wonder where you are
And if the pain ends when you die
And I wonder if there was
Some better way to say goodbye
Some better way to say goodbye
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 Highlowsel wrote:
A very poignant tune, recalling a loved one who's moved on. 

But don't be too sad, for too long.  We are all channelized energy, a fraction of infinite energy contained within a finite vessel.  Look around.  It's that way for every living thing. 

Look up at the night-time sky and see the underbelly of infinity that is the greater Universe.  You cannot see this and not tell me that though the container withers and fails that the energy it contains doesn't go out there onward forever; to dream new dreams in new places and times.  Energy never ends; it never fails, it merely transforms. 

You will meet your loved ones again, as you have before.  It all goes on forever folks.  Forever.  This is the Creators gift to all life; an infinite playground.  So don't be sad.   

Highlow
American Net'Zen
 
And a very poignant response. Thank you for sharing - know that those words touched me and I will share them in times of need to console others in my life.
 Stefen wrote:


Perhaps you can write and submit something.

 
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flaming_Red

Because Radio Paradise ;-) !
 timmus wrote:
From the Flaming Red album, 1998.  The album description gets three sentences on Wikipedia.  Yet Kanye West's debut album gets pages and pages of content.  Sigh.

 
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flaming_Red

Because RP
A very poignant tune, recalling a loved one who's moved on. 

But don't be too sad, for too long.  We are all channelized energy, a fraction of infinite energy contained within a finite vessel.  Look around.  It's that way for every living thing. 

Look up at the night-time sky and see the underbelly of infinity that is the greater Universe.  You cannot see this and not tell me that though the container withers and fails that the energy it contains doesn't go out there onward forever; to dream new dreams in new places and times.  Energy never ends; it never fails, it merely transforms. 

You will meet your loved ones again, as you have before.  It all goes on forever folks.  Forever.  This is the Creators gift to all life; an infinite playground.  So don't be sad.   

Highlow
American Net'Zen
 timmus wrote:
From the Flaming Red album, 1998.  The album description gets three sentences on Wikipedia.  Yet Kanye West's debut album gets pages and pages of content.  Sigh.

 

Perhaps you can write and submit something.
From the Flaming Red album, 1998.  The album description gets three sentences on Wikipedia.  Yet Kanye West's debut album gets pages and pages of content.  Sigh.
I wish I had had the chance grandpa. I'm sorry.
This woman knows how to get to your emotions (in almost every song of hers)....
Every time I hear this, I cry.
I say it every time.  This song completely paralyzes me.  OMG I miss them all so much. <3
 leafmold wrote:
I wonder if I can ever hear this song without crying....

 
I never can.
 leafmold wrote:
I wonder if I can ever hear this song without crying....

 
I know I can't.  Miss you Mom and Dad.
Okay; group HUG now!?  {#Group-hug}
Beautiful 
He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”

.... Heaven is a better place


reading the comments and thinking that the day will come
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my wife has MS and not doing so good
 
I wonder if I can ever hear this song without crying....
David Bowie died yesterday, and this song is so beautiful and sad... Think to all people that i loved...
 cementfloor wrote:
I am incapable of listening to this song without stopping whatever I am doing and tearing up.  Patty just cuts down to the bone.

 
Happens every time.  Have to close the office door and wait for the eyes to dry up.


You don't need to have lost someone close to you to feel and hear the beauty in Patty's song. But if you have, and whether or not it was sudden, unexpected or perhaps unspeakably tragic, this song is at once painful and healing to listen to. Bless this woman's gifts and artistry.
Hits home every time I hear it. My ex-wife, battled like hell, 10 years, before cancer took her down a couple of years ago. She deserved a better life, a happier life. Always makes me sad beyond words.
Used to think she was generic New Country - I was wrong.
Wistful.
 MsJudi wrote:
I can't help it, but this song, which I discovered on RP, reminds me of our two RPeeps who have passed on from this world. Cy, Melissa, this one's for you.

 
You are not alone, Judi.
 Webfoot wrote:
Okay everyone, stop crying and get back to work.

 
yes sir — {#Cry}
I love this song, but love the Live version more.
 cementfloor wrote:
I am incapable of listening to this song without stopping whatever I am doing and tearing up.  Patty just cuts down to the bone.

 
Yes indeed. Gets me every time. There is a live version too, rougher around the edges, which suits Jeff even better.
Okay everyone, stop crying and get back to work.
God I love this song.
I am incapable of listening to this song without stopping whatever I am doing and tearing up.  Patty just cuts down to the bone.
Patty NEVER gets old......
 hamer12string wrote:
I have RP to thank for turning me on to so many things - perhaps most precious among them Ms. Griffin.

 
Ditto
 hamer12string wrote:
I have RP to thank for turning me on to so many things - perhaps most precious among them Ms. Griffin.


Well said.
I never, ever tire of this. Great lyricist, fantastic voice.
Anyone who can write a song like this and sing it with such sincere emotion is OK by me.
I have RP to thank for turning me on to so many things - perhaps most precious among them Ms. Griffin.
I can't help it, but this song, which I discovered on RP, reminds me of our two RPeeps who have passed on from this world. Cy, Melissa, this one's for you.
Patty Griffin gets added to my feminine "Great gifts to American Music" list, along with the Great Emmylou Harris, Joni Mitchell and Laura Nyro, and more.
Just changed my rating to a 10. This song reminds me of several lost friends,and mistakes made.  And her voice is timeless.
 Imkirok wrote:

I had a cousin who committed suicide 25 years ago.  We were best friends growing up but weren't on the best terms when he died.  Every time Patty sings "I wish there was a better way to say goodbye", I start crying too.
 
Makes me cry too. This is a great album. Tony never gets played and is an equally great song.
Patty is playing at the free concert Hardly Strictly Bluegrass in SF this Saturday at 3:50 PM!
The sentiment is indeed beautiful, and I can understand why so many listeners felt touched by it.  The break in her voice when she hits the high notes just rubs me the wrong way.
 casey1024 wrote:
stops me every time.  crying at my desk, again.
 
I had a cousin who committed suicide 25 years ago.  We were best friends growing up but weren't on the best terms when he died.  Every time Patty sings "I wish there was a better way to say goodbye", I start crying too.
I wasn't about to give this song much attention until I started reading the comments of you beautiful people, thank you
stops me every time.  crying at my desk, again.
 lily34 wrote:
gotta stop and listen. indeed.
 
A lot of Patty's tunes do that to me.  Just need to listen.
gotta stop and listen. indeed.
When ever this song comes on, I just have to stop what I'm doing and just listen
 govna wrote:
Patty is god.
  We could do worse.


Today, this song is for my cousin Barbara. {#Sad}
I heard a rumour that Patty and Robert Plant have married.... lucky guy!
 
It's a beautiful, sad song.
 cc_rider wrote:
... because it's about Jeff Buckley.
 
I thought Bill said it was about Gram Parsons.
Jeff Buckley makes more sense. He and Patty were contemporaries, whereas Gram died when Patty was about 10.
Jeff died in 1997, this album was released in 1998, and a line in the song says, "you've been gone now couple years". 

Regardless, this is one of the most emotionally evocative songs ever. 




(Edit Oct 26/11: The song I was confused about is The Road by Emmylou Harris. THAT one is about Gram Parsons)

 misterimpatient wrote:
Sends a chill every time I hear it. 
 

Couldn't have said it better.
The live version is something to behold . . .
 Webfoot wrote:
But the sentiment also transends any one person and goes straight to the heart of human experience.  At least for me it does.
  Absolutely agree. Anyone, anywhere, who has suffered a loss, particularly a tragic one, can relate to the heartbreak so clearly voiced in this song.


an almost perfect song.
Sends a chill every time I hear it. 
It's about Jeff...it's about you, me, your parents, your sick friend you just couldn't get through to...
 cc_rider wrote:
Yes it is the voice, but it also makes me cry because it's about Jeff Buckley. Jeff Buckley's 'Grace' is still one of my all-time favorite albums, even though I simply cannot listen to it very often, it is so emotionally wrenching to me. Thinking about him, the way he died so tragically, the way his father died so tragically.

But yes, Patty Griffin's voice absolutely sends me to another place.
 

But the sentiment also transends any one person and goes straight to the heart of human experience.  At least for me it does.
 cc_rider wrote:
Yes it is the voice, but it also makes me cry because it's about Jeff Buckley.
 
Thanks for this. I didn't know it was about Buckley. The song gives me chills with every listen.
 dkeifer wrote:
I heard this song for the first time over 4 years ago and it still makes me cry....it's that voice.....
  Yes it is the voice, but it also makes me cry because it's about Jeff Buckley. Jeff Buckley's 'Grace' is still one of my all-time favorite albums, even though I simply cannot listen to it very often, it is so emotionally wrenching to me. Thinking about him, the way he died so tragically, the way his father died so tragically.

But yes, Patty Griffin's voice absolutely sends me to another place.


 RobRyan wrote:
She is such an amazing talent. The emotion she is able to communicate is incredible. With one exception (One Big Love, in my opinion a "throwaway song") I invariably stop what I'm doing to listen.
  Yep.


...i am such a sucker for pachelbel's canon, every single time it just sucks me in...
She is such an amazing talent. The emotion she is able to communicate is incredible. With one exception (One Big Love, in my opinion a "throwaway song") I invariably stop what I'm doing to listen.
 Pyro wrote:
I am drawn to Patty's lyrics and voice like a moth to a flame. I had never heard of her prior to RP. GOD I LOVE THIS PLACE!!!!!!!
 
Decided to drag out a comment from years back. It echoes my sentiments, completely.
Not bad!
 cc_rider wrote:
9? I gave this a 9? What the frack is wrong with me? 10.
 

yeah, what the frack IS wrong with you? {#Eh}  it's only about a 23.
9>10
I love it
Peace, Rick. We miss you.

I hate how this song always gets me
Every time I hear this song I get goosebumps, in a good way! A 10{#Clap}


On the aniversary of my Father-in-Law's death.  Poignant.  Love it...sniff....sniff {#Cry}
I was singing this song earlier today.  There are no coincidences.
9? I gave this a 9? What the frack is wrong with me? 10.
Patty comes to my town next month while I am traveling for vacation - Ouch.  Guess I have to buy the A Kiss In Time CD. 

Patty, please return to Solana Beach.
 casey1024 wrote:
I hope the pain ended for you, Deb.
 
Peace.

I hope the pain ended for you, Deb.
I wish you guys would quit playing this dang song. I feel like a dork sitting at my desk at work all misty eyed. Geez, Louise...
Thanks for playing this Bill!
 ericconrad wrote:
WOW, what a song.  This may be my favorite Patty Griffin song, and that is a bold statement.
 
Have to agree... and it gives me chills Every Damn Time I hear it.


Agonizingly beautiful.  .  .

{#Cry}

WOW, what a song.  This may be my favorite Patty Griffin song, and that is a bold statement.
OMG! This song gives me goose bumps.

Nice set Bill. 
patty is god.
PG is one of the fine artists I probably would have never discovered if not for RP. I've long since switched my radio support from NPR to RP and it's money well spent.
 keller1 wrote:
I know, I know, I've extolled this tune's virtues before, but I can list the songs that make me tingle on the fingers of one hand.  This is one of them.

It just captures the sense of loss so perfectly.
 
Amen.

more patty griffin please!  I'm just discovering this artist thru RP {#Hearteyes}


 phlattop wrote:
 wenatchee wrote:
The live version is quite haunting. I find that if I want to remember . . . this hits a spot of great sorrow and sadness and that today is a very good day in that I am here.
 
The version here is quite haunting. I'd love to hear Emmylou cover this (maybe pair this with her cover of Steve Earle's "Goodbye"?) Good to hear there's a live version. I'll have to check it out.

  Haunting, indeed.  And I too would love to hear Emmylou cover it AND the Steve Earle song to follow...

She turns my heart to mush....


Great Song.
I know, I know, I've extolled this tune's virtues before, but I can list the songs that make me tingle on the fingers of one hand.  This is one of them.

It just captures the sense of loss so perfectly.
 AphidA wrote:
This song can easily turn one into a blubbering mess.  Well done.
 
You, my friend, are 100% correct.

Given that, it is extremely hard for me to understand a "1" vote for this song. I get that you might not be a Patty Griffin fan. It's hard to understand, but I allow extreme latitude when it comes to personal taste.

I just can't truly condone anyone voting a song as beautiful as this a "1". It kind of makes my soul shudder, to think about anyone that heartless. Just my opinion, nothing more. {#Wall}
 fluffybum wrote:
flaming bad.
  whatever fluffs it for you bum.

1 votes: 29 (45%)2 votes: 4 (6.2%)3 votes: 0 (0%)4 votes: 1 (1.5%)5 votes: 1 (1.5%)6 votes: 0 (0%)7 votes: 1 (1.5%)8 votes: 8 (12%)9 votes: 18 (28%)10 votes: 3 (4.6%)
 since FB responds positively to a minor proportion of tunes played on RP, maybe he will go away... one can only hope.
This song can easily turn one into a blubbering mess.  Well done.
I heard this song for the first time over 4 years ago and it still makes me cry....it's that voice.....
flaming bad.
When those wistful thoughts, about what if... come around, I think of this song. It doesn't do me any good, but it makes me feel better. Thanks, RP! {#Wave}
 pianocomposer wrote:
From SongMeanings: 

by jrw1980 on 09-16-2008 @ 12:03:07 PM
This song is about Jeff Buckley. Not many people know that but it's true. Jeff has inspired many artists and many songs. PJ Harvey's Memphis is about Jeff. Also Chris Cornell's Wave Goodbye, The Cocteau Twins' Rilkean Heart... Fake Plastic Trees by Radiohead had Jeff in mind too.


I can't verify the accuracy of this interpretation. However, Griffin's "Goodbye" is one of my all-time favorite songs by any artist in any style. Does the dial have an "11"?

 
 
Ben Folds' "Late" is also about Jeff, if I remember correctly.
{#Dancingbanana_2}{#Bounce}{#Music}{#Roflol}11

The live version has a bit at the end about what she was thinking about with regard to this song.  The live version is something to take in and absorb . . . do a live version of this followed by a live version of Majesty, THAT would be a duo-set
Brings a tear to the eye for those who have gone and for those who will go.
From SongMeanings: 

by jrw1980 on 09-16-2008 @ 12:03:07 PM
This song is about Jeff Buckley. Not many people know that but it's true. Jeff has inspired many artists and many songs. PJ Harvey's Memphis is about Jeff. Also Chris Cornell's Wave Goodbye, The Cocteau Twins' Rilkean Heart... Fake Plastic Trees by Radiohead had Jeff in mind too.


I can't verify the accuracy of this interpretation. However, Griffin's "Goodbye" is one of my all-time favorite songs by any artist in any style. Does the dial have an "11"?

 
 wenatchee wrote:
The live version is quite haunting. I find that if I want to remember . . . this hits a spot of great sorrow and sadness and that today is a very good day in that I am here.
 
The version here is quite haunting. I'd love to hear Emmylou cover this (maybe pair this with her cover of Steve Earle's "Goodbye"?) Good to hear there's a live version. I'll have to check it out.

Yay, Patty Griffin!
 markoirl wrote:

Beautiful song.  I would never have sought out Patty Griffin but this has me thinking.  Thanks RP!


 

It will be time well spent..  you won't be disappointed!  Her enire catalogue is fantastic.. imo
Favorite CD of 2008, better late then never.  Thanks RP! 

Beautiful song.  I would never have sought out Patty Griffin but this has me thinking.  Thanks RP!


 bam23 wrote:
Her live version is indeed more powerful. This recording has a slightly rushed feel to it. The live performance also is more spare in instrumentation. Exceptional in either version.

 

Lots of times it seems artists don't truly 'find' a song until long after it's been recorded.  I like that.  It's as if there is still much to learn about where a song can go and it may take months or even years of performing it live, again and again, reinterpreting it slightly each time, until it takes on a life of its own and becomes something much bigger than what was captured during the recording session.
Her live version is indeed more powerful. This recording has a slightly rushed feel to it. The live performance also is more spare in instrumentation. Exceptional in either version.
Since I've lived this song, I think it sucks. In a wonderful kind of way if ya know what I mean.

davin wrote:
9->10
I was thinking the same, but am waiting to hear live version (which has an even higher average rating)
Damn if this woman doesn't give me shivers every time. Wow.
DougReed wrote:
Every time I hear this, it brings tears to my eyes... This song just touches something.
All her songs are like that - damn them! I prefer my whine to be less sappy.
The live version echo's in the soul . . .
touches your soul.
The power of song. Wail on it grrrl!
Every time I hear this, it brings tears to my eyes... This song just touches something.
Very nice.
whoa...just bought it on itunes...bought a lot off itunes 'cause of rp...
Beautiful!!!
lovely Patty